Find Your Sexual Style, Improve Your Sex Life
Have you ever tried finding your sexual style? It’s a lot easier than you think, and it can likely boost your libido and improve your sex life, as a result!
By discovering what your (and your partner’s) sex styles are, you’re able to better understand the best ways to pleasure yourselves, which can, in turn, help to seduce your long-term partner — and they, you. From understanding what turns you on the most to determining the best sex positions, this knowledge can turn your sex life around for the better.
But what is your intimacy style? If you’re ready to improve your sex life, read on and figure out which of these sex styles you most identify with below.
Mindful
These people understand (and embrace) that mindful sex is the most intimate sex. Someone with this sex style prefers to focus on the ‘here and now’ during close interactions by having a clear headspace, sense of inner peace, and a deepened awareness of bodily sensations. Such individuals may prefer morning sex or even intimate shower sex to start their day off right.
Often, but not always, this mindful attitude trickles into their non-sexual interactions. These people may practise meditation, advocate for couples therapy, and actively strive to release tension from their bodies when feeling stressed.
Humorous
Folks with this intimacy style know that having a good laugh during sex is nothing to be ashamed of! With a sex-positive attitude, things like bodily noises and fluids are not seen as shameful, but rather, as a natural (and sometimes humorous) part of it all. These people are even known to crack a joke or two during foreplay or intercourse!
It’s great to have a balanced relationship, enjoying both the serious and not-so-serious aspects of intimacy and sex.
Angry
If you find a thrill of the bubbling emotions that often arise from makeup sex after a big fight, or even frustrated yet intimate moments after breaking up with someone or being broken up with, you likely enjoy angry sex. For some, this might be in the form of BDSM, playing with consensual non-consent.
People who favour this sex style often find the best sex positions to be doggy style and reverse cowgirl or cowboy, as these are more impersonal (and have the couple facing away from one another).
Lusty
Do you favour hot and heavy sex, similar to something you might see in Hollywood’s hottest sex scenes? Lusty sex might be your thing. This is one of the intimacy styles that allow you to maintain passion in your relationship with your long-term partner just as much as it can be a sexy one-shot deal with a hook-up.
A preference for lusty sex can often lead to messy sex, with a more carefree attitude taken as those involved focus on the heat of the moment and the physical sensations they’re experiencing.
Romantic
If you’re a hopeless romantic, chances are, this is your preferred intimacy style. These folks find compassion, long-term commitment, mutual trust, and a deep sense of intimacy with their partner to be crucial. While passionate love can certainly play a role in this, it’s the sense of enduring romance that resonates.
That said, the best sex positions for people with this sex style would be those that encourage emotional intimacy, like missionary, cowgirl or cowboy (particularly when leaning forward towards their partner), lotus, and spooning.
Fantasy
These are the kinds of people that thrive on out-of-the-box sex, such as role-play characters outside of the real world (fantasy characters, for example, or creatures and beings that do not exist). In addition to this, individuals who prefer a fantasy-based sex style might also enjoy role-playing more real-world scenarios, such as doctor and patient, teacher and student, or parent and babysitter. While some of these scenarios can be illegal due to age gaps and exploiting a person’s vulnerability, fantasies that can be acted on without too much planning include outdoor or public sex, joining the mile-high club (sex in an airplane), or giving your partner a striptease.
Now that you’ve done the work for finding your sexual style, you’re ready to apply this knowledge to improve your sex life. Remember that with different sex styles as options, you and your partner might have a different intimacy style; acknowledging this and learning how to speak to one another’s Love Languages will help you have a better relationship.
With this new knowledge, you’re ready to talk to your partner about sex (and will be able to have better conversations with your partner).
Have you worked towards finding your sexual style? Do you believe that discovering your intimacy style can help you find the best sex positions for you and your partner? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
