Fetish Friday: Role Play Your Sexual Fantasies
A kink is anything that diverges from the societally deemed ‘normal’ constraints of human sexuality, while a fetish describes the object of your sexual fantasies, whether that’s a living being or an inanimate object. The bottom line? Both are often viewed as being taboo.
Thankfully, our world is becoming increasingly sex-positive, meaning that many fetishes and kinks are considered ‘mainstream.’ Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that every fetish (or fetishes) that a person has is commonly understood. With plenty of subcultures branching out beneath an umbrella definition, it can leave outsiders unsure of what each kink entails.
This Friday, we’ve decided to delve into the topic of sexual role play and fantasies to help break down the walls of confusion and apprehension. Hopefully, this will give you a better idea of what someone who has this particular fetish is into, consequently enlightening you and providing a deeper insight into the fascinating sexual world that we all live in.
What is sexual role play?
Roleplaying involves acting out various sex scenarios with your partner while one or both of you are in character. As with most kinks, there are varying degrees of it, from playfully dressing up and remaining ‘as yourselves,’ to fully immersing yourself in a storyline and staying in character.
This is a great way to liven things up between you and your partner in the bedroom without going to any extremes.
Common misconceptions
People often think that the sexual fantasies associated with roleplaying involve a lot of planning or forethought. In truth, it doesn’t necessarily need to include costumes (unless you want them), nor do you necessarily need to set a scene or gather props.
Sexual role play does not have to include more than two people, encompass BDSM or humiliation of any kind, nor make any participant(s) feel physically or emotionally uncomfortable. Unless, of course, any of these are kinks that you’re into.
How to talk about it with your partner
When the right opportunity comes up — you’ll likely be able to gauge the situation for yourself — let your partner know that you’ve been contemplating trying out different sex scenarios with them. Answer any questions that they may have and be open to the possibility that this may not be something that they feel comfortable with. If it isn’t, don’t pressure them into it.
If they are open and consent to the idea, now is the time to bring up any role play ideas you may have. Talk about what you both would be interested in and which would work best for the two of you.
Things to try
Though there are no limitations to who you can role play as, here are some great ideas to get you started. As the cliché goes, the only limit is your imagination.
Two strangers meeting for the first time
Pizza delivery person and homeowner
Police officer and criminal
Student and teacher
Nurse and patient
Boss and employee
Celebrity and fan
Age play (adult and child)
Cave people
Vampire and innocent victim
Mario and Princess Peach
Hobbits
Are there risks to consider?
As with any sexual encounter, you have to be wary of the possibility of spreading or contracting STIs, and of pregnancy (if that is a concern to any role player). To help avoid this, practise safe sex by using protection and exploring all of your birth control options.
Should you opt to role play sex scenarios that involve physical abuse or violence, make sure that you have a safe word in place, in case either partner feels uncomfortable and wants to stop the fantasy immediately.
How can I learn more?
If you want to get additional role play ideas, learn more about this fetish, watch related videos, or to talk about it with other people, there are plenty of blogs, chat rooms, and threads online that you can access. A simple search of a particular role play that you have in mind can explain how other couples acted it out, or you can see how others escalated their sexual fantasies over time.
From clearly defining what sexual role play is, to providing you with role play ideas to try out yourself, we hope that the next time the topic of such sex scenarios comes up in conversation, you feel more confident in being open to speaking about it. Whether it’s learning more about the fetish from someone who partakes in it first-hand or educating another person who is closed off to the idea about what it actually entails, we feel like we’ve done our job on making the world a more sexually inclusive place.
Have you played out any sexual fantasies before? Is sexual role play something that you would be willing to try? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
