Improve Your Sex Life With a Quickie: Tips to Actually Orgasm Fast
Who says quickies are a bad thing? (‘Quickie sex,’ typically defined as one or two minutes of sex, is often done in secret or between pressing matters.)
While we’re strong advocates of slow sex and taking the time to learn about both your and your partners’ bodies, this type of mindful sex isn’t always possible. Whether it’s interference due to a busy schedule, you can’t seem to find time for sex after kids, or any other set of circumstances, there’s no reason to shame the desire to have a quickie and improve your sex life. After all, when you’re feeling aroused, fitting in the time for quick sex is better than having no sex at all!
If you needed any more convincing, we’ve compiled our top reasons to enjoy quickie sex and tips to orgasm fast (so you can make the most of these brief, stolen moments).
Lay a thrilling scene
First things first: you want to feel excited enough to be aroused. Picking an exciting location is ideal for everyone involved, as is the sheer thrill of stealing a few moments away to have secret sex.
Keep in mind that having a quickie isn’t just to squeeze in sex while at home. You can improve your sex life by having public sex, with a short minute or two romp in a change room, washroom stall, or discreetly in the back of a movie theatre.
Use lube… then apply some more
Did you know that using quality lubricants increases a person’s chances of orgasm (and helps them climax more quickly)? While this is true for everyone, it’s particularly true for ratings of sexual pleasure and satisfaction in folks with vaginas. If penetrative sex is what you’re after, add a bit of lube on your genitals and get to it!
Adjust angles and positions
Different angles are essential for quickening orgasm in penetrative (penis or with a sex toy), manual, and oral sex. You can even try out different sex positions as well, potentially ones that can help better incorporate giving a blowjob or performing cunnilingus.
Keep in mind that anal sex may not be the best choice, even with lube, as it takes relaxation and time to be comfortable for the receiver!
Communicate openly with one another
Communicate what sensations and techniques you enjoy the most and what can help you climax the fastest. Ask your partner questions about how you can help make these one to two minutes the most orgasmic experience possible for them, too!
Getting comfortable talking to your partner about sex is incredibly helpful for slower sex as much as it is for quickies!
Touch yourself, too
Help your partner out by stroking your penis or fingering your vulva and vagina while they take care of other erogenous zones on your body (or theirs)! After all, masturbation is good for you, so why not get the blood flowing and sexual thrill heightening in this sensual way?
Incorporate a sex toy
One thing we love to add into quickie sex (or any type of sex, if we’re honest), are sex toys for penises and toys for vaginas. This is one of the top tips to orgasm fast, as they are specifically designed to bring pleasure to the human body. Thus, in combination with other techniques you may be performing, throwing a sex toy into the mix can increase your chances of reaching orgasm within the one- to two-minute time frame.
Learn about your partner’s body
Likely, quickies are not the only form of sex you and your partner rely on. It’s a great idea to pay attention to their physical and verbal responses to your touch, then apply these practices when there’s a timer running, and climax is expected to happen quickly. This is possible during quickie sex as well, but slow sex offers a better learning opportunity to experiment in different (consensual) ways.
Whether used to boost your sex life, working around a currently hectic schedule, or stealing some time away while your kids are occupied for one to two minutes of steamy sex, mastering how to have a quickie will be a game-changer. When the arousal levels begin to heighten, there’s no time to address it like the present — even if it has to be done in as little time as possible… and hey, you might even try incorporating a sex toy made for couples while you’re at it, to speed up your orgasm.
Just remember: even if it’s quick, it doesn’t mean that you don’t have to think about your birth control options (if that’s something you’re concerned about) or preventing sexually transmitted infections!
In your opinion, how long should a quickie last? Do you think having a quickie can improve your sex life (and if so, what are your tips to orgasm fast)? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
