How to Eat Pussy: An Expert’s Guide to Cunnilingus
Last week, we taught you how to give a blowjob, so it only makes sense for us to tell you how to eat pussy (or give oral sex, also known as cunnilingus or going down on someone), too. While there isn’t a guaranteed way to make someone reach climax through oral sex — after all, every single body is different and, thus, responds distinctively — these are ways that you can bring intense pleasure to anyone with a vulva.
That is, by following these tips and tricks, you’re sure to have a greater chance at achieving orgasm on bodies with a vagina.
Think of cunnilingus as the main event, not just foreplay
Before you begin going down on someone, ask for consent from your partner and, once they give you an enthusiastic “yes,” feel free to start!
Avoid looking at cunnilingus as a means to a penetrative end, or even because you feel obligated to make them come to orgasm. Treat oral sex as if it’s the main act. The individual on the receiving end will notice the difference in enthusiasm through their level of experienced pleasure!
Take things slow and follow their lead
On average, people with vaginas can take anywhere from twenty to forty-five minutes to reach orgasm. That’s why the best foreplay stories are ones where you don’t take off right from the gate with intensity, but rather, where things are done nice and slow (with a gradual build-up). Have a conversation with your partner beforehand to find out what they like, or ask for affirmations like, “Is this okay?” while going down.
Note: if you’re engaging with a new sexual partner, this is also the perfect time to check their vulva for anything that may look suspicious to avoid contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs). In situations like these, it’s also best to have them wear a dental dam.
Consider your tongue’s movements
Are you thinking about putting your tongue into their vagina? If your partner has given explicit consent to that, go for it. After all, it is oral sex!
Like anywhere else in the area, try to go for gentle touches and strokes, rather than more aggressive thrusts (unless they have requested that). In addition to using your fingers — more on that in a bit — a little bit on tongue action can go a long way and create a combination of sensations that make for a more intense orgasm.
Pay attention to the clitoris
Attached to the top of the labia minora, the clitoral glans can be found beneath the clitoral hood. However, this is only a small portion of the entire span of the clitoris, which consists of about 8,000 nerve endings inside the body.
Most people with vaginas cannot have an orgasm through intercourse alone and, instead, climax through clitoral stimulation. This is an important fact to remember when going down on someone. Don’t forget about the clitoris!
Incorporate your finger(s)
As the vagina gets wetter, creating natural lubrication, you can — if they’re okay with it — insert a finger or two into their vaginal opening. You can also use a lubricant, if that’s preferred.
Move the fingers back and forth gently, picking up speed based on their physical or verbal reactions (if they respond to it positively). Curving your fingers while stroking can also help create orgasmic sensations, especially when combined with tongue action on the clitoral area!
Oh, and an interesting fact about sex? Inserting a clean sex toy can up the pleasure factor, particularly when you aim for the G spot!
Let this also be a pleasurable experience for you
When eating out the vaginal area, don’t hesitate to pause and breathe if you need to. As with any sexual act, there can be awkward moments, but don’t let them discourage you. A stray pubic hair wandered into your mouth? Stop, pull it out, and then continue (if you still feel comfortable doing so).
Ultimately, taking the initiative to learn how to eat pussy should be just as much for your own enjoyment as it is for your partner’s!
With a sex-positive attitude and an understanding that vulvas come in all shapes, sizes, and colours, as well as have different scents and tastes, learning how to eat pussy becomes instantly less daunting. While seducing your partner with oral sex, whether as the main event or as foreplay, you will find that going down on someone can be just as enjoyable for you as it will be for them. Not only can it be an orgasmic experience, it can also serve as one that builds intimacy between sexual partners. If you want more info about clitoral stimulation, leading sexpert Laura Rose Halliday has an entire article dedicated to this topic.
Do you have any additional tips on how to eat pussy? Do you enjoy giving oral sex or receiving cunnilingus? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
