What Makes for Good Oral Sex Etiquette?
A significant aspect of learning how to give oral sex in a pleasurable way is understanding how to give and receive it respectfully and tactfully. ‘Oral etiquette,’ if you will. Since oral sex can boost your libido and improve your sex life, it makes sense that people want to master the art to the best of their abilities!
By adhering to the oral sex tips outlined below, you can have greater assurance that you are giving or receiving the best oral sex possible; after all, consent, comfort, and enthusiastic fun are all critical aspects of making this great element of foreplay even more exciting.
When giving: Always ask for consent
The best oral sex occurs when everyone involved is enthusiastically consenting. In fact, asking for explicit consent is a big relationship green flag (whether in a casual or committed relationship)! This includes deciding to switch things up mid-sex —such as moving from focusing on the genitals to analingus.
When giving: Don’t use oral sex as a bargaining chip
When oral sex is used as a bargaining chip in a romantic relationship, it’s a significant relationship red flag. Sex in any form should never be used as a manipulation tactic, whether for your partner to perform sexual acts on you in return or in exchange for something they’d like you to do outside the bedroom.
When giving: Check in on your partner throughout
Checking in on your partner while giving them oral is a great way to ensure that they’re still into the situation and having a good time. Asking things like “Do you like this?” or “How does it feel when I lick you here?” can go a long way and be super sexy!
When giving: Listen for key cues
These cues can be physical or verbal. Words of affirmation, pleasured moans, or gently guiding your head can all be great indicators that your partner enjoys oral sex and wants you to continue. Yelps, groans of discomfort, pushing your head away, or closing their legs are general indications that they’re uncomfortable and that you should stop immediately and check in.
When receiving: Communicate your boundaries
Maintaining passion in a relationship can be achieved by setting boundaries and enjoying all the sexual things you and your partner can do within them. This applies to oral sex, too! Let your partner know what you are and are not comfortable with, as well as what you could potentially be open to (they can check in on you before attempting these things).
When receiving: Practice good hygiene
One of the best oral sex tips we can give you is to practice good hygiene. Keeping your genitals clean is a great start. As well, while keeping pubic hair trimmed is not necessary, it helps avoid stray hairs getting caught in the giver’s mouth when they’re going down on you.
When receiving: Don’t force your partner’s head
While gently guiding your partner’s head to the spots that feel most orgasmic to you, forcing them or holding them in a particular position can make the giving experience a horrible one (unless, of course, consensual non-consent is your thing). As well, while messy sex happens, never force a partner’s head to remain by your genitals while you squirt or ejaculate on them.
When receiving: Offer suggestions, not insults
Because every body is different, certain things may send you over the edge to climax, but wouldn’t necessarily work for someone else. Instead of insulting someone’s skills, offer oral sex tips for your specific body. For example, “It feels amazing when you do X to me.” You can improve your own oral techniques by asking them to return the favour by offering you tips for performing oral sex on them!
We hope that these oral sex tips and tricks — in other words, your newfound oral etiquette — will help you master how to both receive and give oral sex in the most enjoyable way possible. In learning and applying our words of sage advice, oral can become an incredible act between people and help you get better in bed and be an incredible sex partner.
[As a side note, please remember to take all necessary precautions to prevent sexually transmitted infections (STI) or, if you or your partner have one or more, educate yourselves on having sex with an STI in a safe manner. Not all birth control options prevent STIs.]
Do you think that etiquette is an essential aspect of learning how to give oral sex? Are there any oral etiquette tips you think that we missed? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
