Fetish Friday: Analingus
A fetish defines the object of someone’s sexual fantasies (a living being or an inanimate object), while kinks refer to the ‘non-conventional’ practices that a person takes part in or fantasizes about. When exploring either definition, both are often considered to diverge from mainstream social norms.
Thankfully, recent years have seen the world become more and more sex-positive. As a result, many fetishes and kinks are regarded as being ‘acceptable.’ Still, not every fetish (or fetishes) that a person has is understood by the general public. This may be, in part, due to the diverse subcultures that often branch from a single fetish or kink; it can leave outsiders uncertain of what it entails.
Today, we’ll be speaking on analingus (also known as rimming) to help remove any misperceptions and uncertainties on the topic. We hope that it will give you a better idea of what it’s like to experience this kink, as well as what someone who takes part in it might be into.
What is analingus (or ‘rimming’)?
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A part of anal play or anal sex, analingus involves the mouth coming into contact erotically with an anus to kiss, suck, or lick it. The act is also known as ‘rimming’ and can be received or performed by absolutely anyone, regardless of gender, sex, or sexual orientation (or lack thereof). Essentially, if you and your partner have a butt (anus) and mouth between you both and want to try this out, it’s possible!
Common misconceptions
Contrary to what some folks say, analingus isn’t just an activity for gay men. As we mentioned above, the only thing necessary to perform or receive a rim job is a mouth and an anus, respectively. As well, it’s important to note that rimming is safe to enjoy (for the most part). Like any sexual activity, there are some things that you should keep in mind, which we talk about more below.
How to talk about it with your partner
Like any sexual act you want to delve into with someone, it’s essential to get explicit consent from everyone involved. Plus, talking to your partner about your kinks and fetishes is a great way to spice up your sex life! You can say things such as: “I’d love to lick your asshole. What do you think?” or “I think it would be so much fun to kiss you between your butt cheeks. Would you like that, too?”
Things to try
Remember, while rimming can certainly be foreplay to anal sex, it does not mean that it has to be anything more than a standalone act for any additional sexual activity. As part of analingus, you may want to experiment with licking the outer cheeks and moving inward towards the anus, sucking gently with gradually quickening speeds on the asshole, or kissing upwards from the perineum (the spot between the anus and vulva or scrotum) to the asshole.
Are there risks to consider?
Because you’re dealing with the anus, cleanliness is vital to prevent the spread of bacteria. Some digestive bacteria and parasites can transfer through this area, including E. coli and Salmonella, which should be avoided ingesting at all costs. Likewise, certain sexually transmitted infections can spread through the anus, including herpes, gonorrhea, genital warts, hepatitis A and B, and syphilis. Thankfully, the use of a dental dam can help prevent the spread of STIs.
How can I learn more?
Curious to learn more about analingus and how to give a great rim job? To see it in action, watching ethical pornography (including instructional videos posted by pornstars) can be a great way to see how to do it in a way that is safe and pleasurable to everyone involved. As well, online how-to’s on some of the reputable, popular sex blogs can be of use, and folks can share their stories on different online forums for tips and tricks.
After reading this, we hope that you now have a deeper understanding of what it means to use analingus as a part of anal play and anal sex. The next time the topic comes up in conversation, we are confident that you will feel encouraged to speak about it, whether it be to learn more about the kink from someone who practices it first-hand or to educate someone who may be closed off to the idea. With your help, we feel that we have done our job to help make the world a more sexually inclusive place!
Have you ever tried analingus before? Is rimming something you’d like to explore with a sex partner, as part of anal play? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
