Ever wondered how to get in the mood or how to tease yourself? While this isn’t a tell-all book on “How to Get Horny Fast,” it’s sure to do the trick. The good news is that it isn’t rocket science learning about the things to turn you on by yourself. And no, you don’t need a partner to get the job done.

So, for all of you who have ever asked yourself the elusive question of “what turns me on?”, we’ve got the answers for you. Well, at least a good number of them (wink, wink).

Take a warm bath

When you practice self-love and self-care, it’s easier to get in the mood. After all, how can you turn yourself on if you’re stressed and possibly even feeling insecure? As a self-love exercise, taking a bath will not only help you to relax and unwind, but bathing yourself is a slow and sensual act all on its own.

Touch yourself all over

Although masturbation is good for you, we don’t mean this kind of touching. We’re referring to getting turned on simply by knowing your body better through self-exploration. This can be anything from discovering the places that you like a gentle caress, all the way to learning about your erogenous zones. Slow and steady wins the race at times, but sometimes the opposite can be true, too.

Masturbate a solution

Now that you know where you like to be touched, it’s time to put it into action. Think of the best thing to masturbate to (this can be different for everyone) and do it manually or with a toy. There are so many incredible sex toys for penises and sex toys for vulvas out there!

Side note: Edging and orgasm control is another incredible way to get yourself off.

Read or listen to some erotica

Do you know the specific sounds that will turn you on? This can be anything from listening to audio porn to your favourite erotica stories read out loud, overlaid with sensual sounds that make your heart skip a beat. Auditory perception has an incredible way of getting someone in the mood... quickly.

Watch some (ethical) porn

When people consider the various ways of how to get in the mood, they often think of this. It’s true, there are so many benefits to watching porn. We particularly recommend ethical porn over the ‘mainstream’ variety, as knowing that paid and consenting performers have made the media you’re consuming makes it so much sexier.

Capture a self-portrait nude

Envelop yourself with sex positivity and focus on yourself by taking an artful nude. Whether you’re taking a mirror selfie with your phone or setting up a fancy camera on a timer and positioning yourself up in an artistically sensual pose.

What better way to love your body and appreciate it as the stunning piece of art that it is?

Listen to sensual songs

Getting turned on is easy when you have the right sounds that will turn you on. With sexy beats playing in the background, it can help you zone in on the pleasure of erotically pleasing yourself, regardless of which method you’re using to achieve it.

Uncover your kinks and fetishes

One of the simplest ways to get turned on when you have a kink or fetish is simply by exploring it a little further! This doesn’t always need an in-person, flesh-and-blood partner; sometimes, this can be enjoyed by watching porn, looking at photos, or discussing its intricacies with other folx in the community.

Explore your sexual fantasies

Ask yourself outright: “What turns me on?”

As you begin to explore the answer to this question, you may find yourself diving into fantasies you never knew you had. This can be anything from deciding on new places to have sex to the kind of sexual practices you may want to try. Ultimately, the goal is to have a fulfilled sex life both with yourself and with any partner you may have!

Go ahead, ask yourself: “What turns me on?”

Next time you’re wondering how to get in the mood, think about what works for you: the best thing to masturbate to, the sounds that will turn you on… you name it. Again, while this isn’t a tell-all tale on “How to Get Horny Fast,” these tips and tricks are sure to do the trick. It’ll boost your libido and improve your sex life, even if your sex life is a solo act.

What are your favourite ways for getting turned on? In your opinion, what’s the best thing to masturbate to (and how to get in the mood)? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.

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