The Ultimate Steamy Guide to Having a Successful One-Night Stand
Ever wondered how to get a one-night stand or shied away from it because you don’t know what to do after a one-night stand? If you’re interested in having a fling with someone, you’re certainly not the only one. In fact, tonnes of people enjoy casual sex for anything from ‘itching a scratch’ during a dry spell to using it as practice to get better in bed.
As long as everyone involved is on board (there can be two or more people — threesomes and group sex can be super fun as part of a one-night stand, too) and equally enthusiastic about the situation, it can be so much fun. However, before scrolling through hook-up sites and sleeping with someone new for the first time, consider the following things…
Make sure you want just a hook-up
When figuring out how to get a one-night stand, be clear from the beginning that you are looking for a hook-up and not anything serious. If you’re open to it potentially becoming something more frequent — that is, a friends with benefits situation — then make that known, too.
While you don’t necessarily have to work this right into writing your online dating profile, be sure to bring it up early on in your conversations with someone. Definitely before meeting up face-to-face, to avoid uncomfortable situations!
Meet up somewhere publicly first
We don’t mean having sex in public — although, if this is what you’re looking for, that works, too. When meeting up with people found on hook-up sites, it’s important to ensure that you’re not being catfished (when someone online lies to you about who they are) and that the one-night stand is someone you feel comfortable engaging with sexually. By meeting in public first, you can better assess the situation and decide for yourself if this is something you want to pursue with them.
If you don’t want to take things further at any point, you are never obligated to go home with them!
Take your safety into consideration
When it comes to a one-night stand, you need to make sure you’re well-protected. Just as you would plan for first date safety, be sure to provide your own transportation to and from your destination and tell a trusted friend exactly where you’ll be.
In terms of sexual health, consider your preferred birth control options (if that’s a concern) and do whatever you can to prevent sexually transmitted infections (STIs). If you already have one, be honest and share this information with your sex partner to ensure that they are comfortable and give full consent to having sex with someone living with an STI.
Set clear boundaries
Before jumping into sex, make sure you communicate what you expect out of this hook-up and be clear on what your one-night stand is hoping to get out of it from you. If you’re chatting with someone over the phone before meeting up, this is the perfect opportunity to lay it all out. Are you hoping to give or receive oral sex (blowjobs or eating pussy)? Is there a role-play scenario you’d love to explore? Discuss it!
For folks looking to push the boundaries of this sex session (for example, enjoying BDSM), you may also want to consider having a safe word in place.
Understand that aftercare can vary
Unsure what to do after a one-night stand? Well, there are no exact rules when it comes to this. For starters, you may want to talk about this with your sex partner(s) before hooking up, but even with this, there are no guarantees about how either will feel afterward. Everyone deserves to be respected — them and you! Unless you’ve decided not to talk after hooking up or if the other person has done something to make you feel uncomfortable (in which case, you don’t owe them anything), you should treat your sex partner with respect.
But, at the end of the day, remember that you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, regardless of the situation (and how great the sex was or was not).
Do you now have a better idea of how to get a one-night stand? How about the etiquette of what to do after a one-night stand? We hope it doesn’t feel as daunting as it possibly did before reading our article!
Now, whenever you decide to have a casual fling with someone, you can do so with all the confidence you deserve to radiate… whether you meet them through a friend, on one of many hook-up sites, or while out and about and starting up a conversation.
Would you be interested in having a casual fling with someone? Have you had success finding a one-night stand on hook-up sites? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
