Fetish Friday: Female-Led Relationships (FLRs)
‘Kink’ refers to all socially deemed ‘unorthodox’ sexual practices that a person takes part in or is into, while ‘fetish’ describes the focus of their sexual fantasies (whether those are living beings or inanimate objects). When one considers either definition, both are often regarded as off-limits, as far as prescribed societal norms go.
Thankfully, the world is becoming increasingly sex-positive, resulting in many fetishes and kinks being ‘normalized.’ That said, not every kink (or kinks) a person has is understood, possibly due, partly, to varying subcultures that can branch from a single fetish or kink. As a result, outsiders can be left feeling uncertain of what they entail.
Today, we’ll be delving into the topic of a female-led relationship (FLR), to help eliminate your potential misperceptions and reservations on the subject, as well as on female supremacy and authority. We hope that it will give you a better idea of what it’s like to have this kink and what someone who takes part in it is into.
What is a female-led relationship (FLR)?
A female-led relationship, also known as an FLR, for short, is a partnership in which traditional gender roles are reversed. This can exist on a sliding scale, with both partners sharing equal responsibilities or with the male-identifying partner being at the beck and call of the female-identifying partner. For the latter, the female partner would be in complete control.
(This is not to be confused with the feminist movement, in which equality for all genders is sought out.)
Common misconceptions
It’s easy to develop misperceptions about kinks when you are unsure of what they encompass. For FLRs, the following should be remembered:
Not every female in an FLR is on a ‘power trip’
Just as a male-led ‘traditional’ relationship is not necessarily abusive, neither is a female-led relationship
It’s not always about control; many female-led relationships strive to better the male partner by eliminating their vices
The male partner’s perspective and opinions aren’t always ignored
How to talk about it with your partner
When considering talking to your partner about your kink, this is likely only the case if you’re looking to switch from a more ‘traditional’ relationship dynamic to a female-led relationship. However, if you seek this out from the get-go, males often wait for the female to ask them out and initiate the first date. She, too, will decide when the relationship is ‘official’ and, if the partnership progresses to that point, she will propose.
Things to try
There are a few things that can be explored beyond questioning sexist dating myths in a female-led relationship. Males can experiment by handing over big decisions to their partners, staying at home to be a househusband, and reverting financial responsibility to their significant other. Female-identifying partners can invest more time in their career, control the couple’s social schedule, and feel more valued in their relationships (for their increased number of contributions).
Are there risks to consider?
As in any sexual relationship, deciding on the best ways to prevent sexually transmitted infections (STIs) should always be considered. If pregnancy is a concern for either significant other, we also recommend reviewing the best birth control options for you. Any sexual acts that the dominant partner desires must be fully and enthusiastically consented to by everyone involved.
How can I learn more?
To find out how to adapt to a female-led relationship, the best thing to do is consider ‘traditional’ male-led relationship roles and simply reverse them. However, there are also plenty of folks online who are sharing their stories and suggestions, including delving into the degrees to which FLRs can be incorporated into a relationship (from low-key to extreme in intensity).
We hope you now fully understand what female-led relationships (FLRs) are and what it means to embrace female supremacy and authority fully. This includes what is involved in the kink and why the role reversal can sexually satisfy everyone involved.
Should the topic come up in the future, we anticipate that you will feel more open to speaking about it from a place of knowledge, free from judgement. Whether it’s feeling open to further understand the fetish from someone who engages in it first-hand or educating someone who may be closed off to the idea, we feel that we have done our job to help make the world a more sexually inclusive place.
Have you been in a female-led relationship (FLR) before? Are you turned on by the authority that goes hand-in-hand with female supremacy? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
