How Do You Build Intimacy With Shower Sex?
It seems that most people either love or hate shower sex. On the one hand, there are limited sex positions to explore (not to mention that it’s often generally tricky to have sex in the shower) and height differences between partners can make for some awkward fumbling. However, as we’ve pointed out countless times on the Between Our Thighs blog, it’s not always about penetrative sex, whether with a penis or sex toy.
In fact, a sensual shower is an amazing way for building intimacy without sex amongst couples and can certainly serve to seduce your partner. But how can you take advantage of the carnal sexual appeals of this simple act?
Enjoy sex out of your routine
A great way to maintain passion in a relationship is to keep things feeling fresh and exciting. Instead of falling into a mundane routine, switch things up by trying out something new — like shower sex. By sharing a sexual experience in a new location and with new positions (for example, standing up instead of lying down in bed), you’re able to add some spark into your sex life. Even finding a new time of day to get it on, such as a sensual shower in the morning, when you usually have sex before bed, can be exciting!
Explore each other under warm water
Curious about how to get better in bed? The best first step you can take is to get to know your partner’s body, including their most sensitive erogenous zones, how they react to certain forms of touch, and how they like to be kissed. Add in a constant spray of warm water showering your bodies from overhead, and you’ve upped the sexual factor tenfold. The (literally) steamy scene is perfect for having your body discovered, as well as the ideal setting for the person who is doing the exploring.
Wash one another’s bodies
This isn’t just a way to learn more about your partner’s body; it’s fantastic for building up a sense of intimacy with them, too. By washing each other from head to toe, taking your time with slow and gentle motions, you’re connecting emotionally in a way that shows your attention and care for them. The act is equal parts compelling, relaxing, and a confirmation of your love through such a simple act of service to them.
Go in for oral sex
The cleanest you both will likely be is in the shower, so enjoying oral sex under the spray of your showerhead can be super intimate and sexy. Whether you’re giving a blowjob or performing cunnilingus, you and your partner can adjust your bodies and your hips’ angle for easier access and get to the best positions for orgasm.
If oral sex in the shower isn’t something that you’re into, consider manually masturbating each other with a handjob or fingering, or watching each other masturbate yourselves. After all, masturbation is good for you!
Relax amongst the jets
If you’re hoping to have a better relationship, you can do so by unwinding and destressing. What better way to do that than in a jacuzzi tub? If you’re lucky enough to have one at home, submerge your body up to your torso in the warm and bubbling water, lean back, and relax! It’s luxurious time spent together, whether you’re having a conversation and listening to calming music or keeping quiet with just the motor’s sound and bubbling water running as background noise.
Some friendly reminders…
Lay down a bathmat. Be careful with your footing; a slip and fall can quickly ruin a sensual shower.
Stabilize yourself with a hand against the wall. While there aren’t many steady things to hold onto in the shower, placing your hands against the wall can help keep you upright and from falling.
Be careful not to get soap where it can burn or sting. Who wants that kind of discomfort during what should be a sexy time?
Treat shower sex like foreplay. Remember: it’s not about penetration, but rather about exploring each other and fostering a sense of intimacy and sensuality.
Use silicone-based lubricant. Water-based lubricants easily wash away, and plain water is not a substitute for lube.
Building intimacy through a sensual shower is possible, without the need for feeling awkward and stressing about penetration (either with a penis or sex toy). It’s also just a fun way to boost your sex life and enjoy something out of your routine, either as morning sex or as a way to squeeze in some steamy moments after having kids.
So, take the time to relax and discover one another more fully. You’ll thank yourselves for it!
Do you enjoy having sex in the shower? Would you be interested in trying out new ways for building intimacy during shower sex, such as experimenting with sex positions and exploring each other’s bodies? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
