How to Give a Handjob They Won’t Easily Forget
Let’s talk about learning how to give a good handjob. Some folks with penises have been known to say something like this: “Either suck it or fuck it, because jerking off is better when we do it ourselves.” That’s not always the case, particularly when the giver knows what they’re doing. But while masturbation is good for you (and we definitely encourage it), there’s something often more satisfying about having the work done for you.
Whether incorporated into your sex routine as foreplay or taken on as the main event, it’s one of those unselfish things that you can do for your sex partner without expecting anything in return. That is, you learn how to give a handjob solely to pleasure the other person, not for them to return the favour.
To master jerking off another person, either as part of a one-night stand or as one of the ways you want to seduce your long-term partner, you’ll be glad you read our best handjob tips.
Use it as an opportunity to check for STIs
First things first: just like any sexual act, it’s important to ask for consent (and receive an enthusiastic “yes”) from your partner before touching them. Once you get the go-ahead, if you are sleeping with someone new, the best handjob tip we can give you is to use this opportunity to check them for any indicators, to avoid contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs). This is especially true if you decide to have oral or penetrative sex with them afterwards.
Oddly coloured or bad-smelling discharge, blisters or sores, and scabbing are among — but are not all of — the things to look out for.
Keep it well lubed
Just like giving a blowjob, part of learning how to give a handjob involves ensuring that the penis is well lubricated. Failure to have adequate lubrication can cause unwanted friction, leading to chafing. With lube, a person can instead feel intensified pleasure, potentially leading to longer erections, too.
Don’t pull back the foreskin
One of the best handjob tips we can give you is to be careful with the foreskin if the penis has it. When stroking, apply enough pressure that the person feels it, while keeping light enough that you are sliding over the skin instead of pulling it. Too much force and speed can cause a lot of pain. Unless they’re into that, it’s best to avoid it.
A benefit of watching (ethical) porn, or even the hottest sex scenes in cinematic history, is that you can get a clearer idea of the techniques to use.
Vary your stroke speeds
As you gauge their pleasure by their reactions — through verbal and physical indicators — rotate your hands back and forth, using the palms to stimulate the whole penis. The faster the speed you use, the lighter the pressure should be; inversely, the slower you move your hands, the more pressure (generally) you should use.
Another one of our handjob tips? A hand on the tip can feel good! Like anything though, have better conversations with your partner about what they do and do not like, including how they are touched.
The balls want some attention, too
The testicles can be an incredibly erogenous zone for folks with penises. Start with light pressure or sucking, incorporating your tongue and your lips.
Follow your partner’s lead, as this is a very sensitive area, and different people prefer different things. Don’t be afraid to ask, “Does this feel good?” or “How’s this?”
Incorporate it into a blowjob
While learning how to give a handjob is ideal for exclusively using your hands, they’re also great to incorporate into blowjobs, as it gives you a chance to come up for air while still providing constant stimulation to the penis. For those who can’t wholly deepthroat a longer penis, it’s also a good way to envelope the entire shaft, the mouth covering the top and the hand circling the lower half.
These handjob tips are great ways for achieving orgasm for penises. Because of this, learning how to give a good handjob is ideal for boosting your sex life, bringing pleasure to your partner (and getting better in bed), and getting to know their body more intimately. Not to mention the fact that slipping your hand discreetly into their underwear under a restaurant table or in a dark club is a steamy way to have sex in public (or lead up to taking things back home) without drawing attention to yourselves.
What are your go-to handjob tips? If you’re on the receiving end, how can someone make a handjob better than just jerking off yourself? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
