While ‘kink’ refers to the socially deemed ‘unorthodox’ practices that a person takes part in or is into, the word ‘fetish’ describes the object of their sexual fantasies (whether living beings or inanimate objects). When considering either definition, both are often regarded as off-limits in terms of prescribed societal norms.

Thankfully, the world has become increasingly sex-positive, resulting in many fetishes and kinks being ‘normalized.’ That said, not every fetish (or fetishes) a person has is understood, possibly due, in part, to varying subcultures that can branch from a single fetish or kink. As a result, outsiders can be left feeling uncertain of what they entail.

Today, we’ll be delving into the topic of penile hypoplasia or penile hypogenesis (commonly referred to as a ‘micropenis’) to help eliminate your potential misperceptions and reservations on the subject. We hope that it will give you a better idea of what it’s like to have this fetish and what someone who takes part in it is into.

What is a micropenis?

In an adult, a micropenis (also known as microphallus) is a naturally occurring small penis measuring 7 centimetres or less. This can be caused by penile hypogenesis or penile hypoplasia, but is not to be confused with penile agenesis, where a male is born without a penis at all. In terms of fetishism, this lends to the topic of small penis humiliation, where the penis owner, their partner (or both) are sexually aroused by belittling the micropenis as an element of BDSM.

Common misconceptions

There are many misconceptions about micropenises, from assuming they likely came from a botched circumcision to believing that folx with a small penis cannot get aroused the same way someone with a larger penis can. Both these assumptions are untrue. As well, they’re not generally deformed, or prevent someone from being able to urinate or ejaculate. In some cases, micropenises can potentially be enlarged if a child receives testosterone treatment prior to reaching puberty.

How to talk about it with your partner

When talking to your partner about your kinks and fetishes, it’s important to be honest and open. If you’re into small penis humiliation, be clear about it, whether you are the humiliator or humiliated. After all, you don’t want someone to feel embarrassed or undignified as they are unwillingly mocked or put on the spot to mock someone.

Before you engage in any sexual activity, be sure to get explicit and enthusiastic consent from all parties involved.

Things to try

Curious about how you can incorporate small penis humiliation into your sex life? Here are some ideas you can try out:

Mock the size of the penis itself
Draw comparisons to other dicks — and how theirs falls short
Refer to the penis by derogatory, shameful nicknames
For folx that feel defined by their masculinity, call that into question due to the size of their penis
Emphasize that you are not and cannot be satisfied by a dick that is so tiny

Are there risks to consider?

If engaging in sexual contact of any kind, remember that someone with a micropenis generally still has the same functioning as any other penis. Thus, anyone concerned with pregnancy risks should be aware of their birth control options (if having sex with a partner with a vagina). Similarly, preventing sexually trans mitted infections (STIs) must also be considered, and you should take precautions for anyone you are not fluid bonded to.

How can I learn more?

Tons of the best sex bl ogs out there have tips for enjoying sex with someone with a micropenis, as well as for small penis humiliation (if that’s your fetish). For the latter, folx may also want to consider watching ethic ally made pornography focusing on erotic humilia tion. Not only can this give you some great ideas for incorporating it into your sex routine, but it also can be arousing for someone who doesn’t have a sex partner at the moment.

We hope you now have a fuller understanding of what a small penis fetish is.

Should the topic come up in the future, we anticipate that you will feel more open to speaking about it from a place of knowledge, free from judgement. Whether it’s feeling open to further understand the fetish from someone who engages in it first-hand or educating someone who may be closed off to the idea, we feel that we have done our job to help make the world a more sexually inclusive place.

Do you have an attraction to folks with a micropenis or generally small penis? Do you have penile hypoplasia or penile hypogenesis yourself? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.

Fetish Friday: Micropenises