Fetish Friday: Pubic Hair (Pubephilia)
‘Kink’ defines all socially deemed ‘unorthodox’ sexual practices that someone is into or takes part in, while ‘fetish’ refers to the focus of their fantasies (including both living beings and inanimate objects). When considering both of these definitions, they are generally looked at as taboo, in terms of prescribed societal norms.
Thankfully, the world is becoming increasingly sex-positive and, as a result, many fetishes and kinks are being ‘normalized.’ That said, not every fetish (or fetishes) that a person has is understood; this may be due to varying subcultures potentially branching from a single fetish or kink. Consequently, outsiders can be uncertain of what they entail.
Today, we’re discussing the topic of pubic hair fetishism, also known as pubephilia, to help eliminate your potential misperceptions and reservations on the subject. In addition, we hope that it will give you a better idea of what it’s like to have this fetish and what someone who takes part in it is into.
What is a pubic hair fetish (pubephilia)?
Pubic hair fetishism, also known as pubephilia, is an attraction to pubes. With this fetish, sexual pleasure is incited by the sight or idea of pubic hair. The thought of touching a sex partner's pubic hair, feeling the sensations of it against your skin, and smelling the pheromones and scent are all big draws for folx who experience this fetish. This arousal can be related to a variety of other factors as well; one may prefer delicate bushes, dense pubic hair, or pubic hair of a specific colour.
Common misconceptions
The biggest misconception about pubic hair is that it's dirty to let it grow out. It doesn't take the genitalia smell, it doesn't make sex any less enjoyable (sensation-wise), and it does, indeed, stop growing. That is, at around 0.5 to 2 inches (1.27 to 5.08 centimetres) in length, the hair falls out and new ones grow in.
A little bonus fact for you: No, the rug doesn't always match the drapes.
How to talk about it with your partner
Fostering a frank discussion to talk to your partner about your fetish is paramount for mutual sexual pleasure. If you are attracted to pubes on your sex partner, let them know your preferences. If you want to switch things up and grow out your own pubic hair, tell them about that, too.
Keep in mind that although growing pubic hair is not a sexual act, someone should not feel pressured into this. Consent is still important!
Things to try
When it comes to a pubic hair fetish, folx can explore beyond simply growing out their bush; everyone involved can have a bit of fun with it, too. Consider shaving your hair into certain styles (for example, a landing strip, the 'Bermuda Triangle,' or adding in a tiny braid when the hair grows long enough). You can even shave designs and patterns into the hair, if that thought arouses you!
Are there risks to consider?
There are no inherent risks in growing out pubic hair. It actually helps protect us by trapping sweat, bacteria, and oils. If you or your partner is into shaping specific designs or styles into the pubes, it's important to be careful you don't cut yourself with the razor blade. Whether you have a penis or vagina, exfoliating before shaving is a great way to help avoid (or minimize) ingrown hairs, followed by moisturizing the area afterward.
How can I learn more?
The world is your oyster. Whether you're looking for tips and tricks to grow out your pubic hair nice and thick or are on the search for new designs to shape them in, you can find all this online. In addition to finding articles and photos, you can watch ethical pornography to enjoy videos in the “full bush” category, which can be another awesome source for finding new ideas.
We hope you have a deeper understanding of what pubic hair fetishism (pubephilia) is and what is involved in someone’s attraction to pubes. Should the topic come up down the road, we anticipate that you will feel ready to speak about it more candidly from a place of knowledge, while free from judgement. Whether it’s feeling open to further understanding the fetish from someone who engages in it first-hand or educating someone who may be closed off to the idea, we feel that we have done our job to help make the world a more sexually inclusive place.
Do you enjoy a partner with a lot of pubic hair? Are growing out your own pubes a turn-on for yourself? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
