Fetish Friday: Fisting
A fetish defines the object of one’s sexual fantasies (a living being or an inanimate object), while kinks are the ‘non-conventional’ practices a person takes part in or fantasizes about. When looking at either of these definitions, both are typically considered to diverge from mainstream societal norms.
Thankfully, recent years have seen the world become progressively sex-positive. As a result, many fetishes and kinks are considered more ‘acceptable.’ Yet, not every fetish (or fetishes) that a person has is understood by the general population. This is partly due to diverse subcultures that can branch from a single fetish or kink. It can leave outsiders uncertain of what it entails.
To help remove any misperceptions and uncertainties, today, we’ve decided to speak about fisting (also commonly referred to as ‘fist-fucking’ or ‘handballing’). We hope that it will give you a better idea of what it’s like to experience this kink, as well as what someone who takes part in it is into.
What is fisting?
Fisting is the act of someone inserting a hand in its entirety into their sexual partner’s vagina or anus. While it can seem quite intense — and even impossible — to some people, it’s doable for most people with adequate stimulation and arousal, patience, and a great deal of communication between both parties involved. This is particularly relevant when it is the anus that will be fisted or fist-fucked!
Common misconceptions
Contrary to what many people assume, fisting does not mean punching your way right into the vagina or anus in one aggressive shot. It actually involves applying plenty of lubrication to the hand and gradually inserting it into the orifice one finger at a time after spending time arousing your partner. Once all fingers are inside, and your partner is ready, you can slowly slide your fist forward to enclose the knuckles, palm, and wrist inside the cavity.
How to talk about it with your partner
If handballing is something you would like to try with someone or is something you’ve tried in the past with others, and would love to do again, talk to your partner about your kink. Should you wish to perform fisting on your partner, explain what it would entail and how you would go about it. If you want to be fisted, talk about the process and how your partner can fist-fuck you. Open communication is key to any relationship, especially when obtaining consent for sexual activities.
Things to try
If you’re not immediately comfortable having an entire hand inserted into your vagina or anus, you can ease your way into the full thing, experimenting with hand movements and positions along the way. However, once you have worked up to being fully handballed, your partner can widen or clench their hand for differing sensations, stroke their fingers along the inside of you, or rotate the fist to reach various angles of penetration.
Are there risks to consider?
Because you are inserting a hand into what can be a delicate orifice of the body, it’s essential to take care of your hygiene before insertion. The individual who will be fisting should have trimmed fingernails and have just washed their hands thoroughly to avoid giving infections to their partner. In addition to arousing the body with plenty of foreplay, you should also be applying a lot of lube to make for a smoother entry. Failure to do so can result in vaginal or anal tearing.
How can I learn more?
Fisting is a fairly common practice among sexual partners, meaning that there are plenty of resources available for those looking to begin experimenting with handballing! If you are hoping to see the process of fist-fucking first-hand, we would highly recommend perusing some ethical porn sites to find videos that can give you a better idea of what to expect when you try it for yourself.
After reading this, we hope that you now have a deeper understanding of what entails, including how one goes about inserting a hand into the vagina or anus as safely as possible. The next time the topic comes up in conversation, hopefully, you will feel encouraged to speak about it. Whether it’s learning more about the kink from someone who practices it first-hand or educating someone who may be closed off to the idea, we feel that we have done our job to help make the world a more sexually inclusive place.
Is fist-fucking someone, or being fisted, something that you would be interested in experiencing? If you’ve practiced handballing before, what was it like for you? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
