Everything You Need to Know When Hosting an Orgy
Though hosting an orgy (commonly called a ‘play party’) can be fun, it isn’t always the simplest of tasks. From ensuring the safety of your guests, to making the most out of the location, and implementing an overall sense of proper orgy etiquette, there’s a lot to consider!
Whether you’re planning to host orgies soon or at a later date — or are merely curious about what throwing amazing sex parties entail — you need not look any further. Here’s everything you need to know.
Choose a particular vibe for the event
The atmosphere of an orgy can drastically differ, with a myriad of themes available to choose from. When you decide to host orgies, it’s up to you to decide what vibe you want it to take. Are you looking to create a BDSM sex dungeon, or something more luxurious, like a high-class romantic masquerade? Once you decide on this, the decorations and props placed around the space will become more apparent.
Location is key
Because this is group sex, in many ways (thanks to all the eyes in the room), it borders on being a sort of public sex, too. Though you can host an orgy in the comfort of your own home, planners have also been known to rent larger spaces like lavish hotel rooms, museums, art galleries, and even churches. That would make it feel more risqué, wouldn’t it?
Only invite respectful participants
Sex parties are meant for everyone, so long as there is a mutual sense of respect that will be honoured by all participants. Don’t discriminate invitees based on anything, including their occupation. If there is a concern that individuals might reveal the identity of other attendees, consider having everyone sign a non-disclosure agreement (NDA). This will ensure a confidential relationship between all that are present.
Be clear on what can be expected
Part of orgy etiquette and creating a safe space for all partygoers is the insurance that everyone is aware of what to expect. This goes beyond informing everyone on the event’s theme; be clear on what is and is not allowed, including acting on specific kinks. Let invitees know what will be made available to them upon arrival and what, if anything, they should bring along with them.
Differentiate ‘players’ from ‘voyeurs’
Though it may seem easy to identify those who want to actively participate in sexual activities from those who only want to watch, it’s easy to become forgetful once sex parties begin. Create an identifiable marking, such as a brightly coloured ribbon, to tie on the wrists of anyone who only wants to be a voyeur. Make it clear that these people are not to be approached, but can remove their ribbon at any point and join in if they feel comfortable doing so.
Set the mood with music
Sex parties are parties after all, and every good get-together has a solid playlist to fill any gaps of silence. Consider music to fit the theme of your party, whatever that may be. Another option is to go for a more generic list of sexy songs. Regardless of what you choose to play, we suggest not blaring the music loudly, so that everyone can focus on the here and now, including the auditory sensations that accompany sex play.
Have food readily available
A simple way to adhere to orgy etiquette as a host is by providing food to attendees. This doesn’t have to be a full meal (although that’s an option if you want to), and can instead include small hor d’oeuvres and finger foods to keep people satiated. Sex can be a strenuous activity, meaning that the appetite is often built up. These snacks can be enjoyed before the party to gain energy and, after it’s over, to restore it.
Help break the ice
When hosting an orgy, you want everyone in the room to feel comfortable with one another. Help break the ice by socializing amongst everyone and introducing guests to one another before you jump into the ‘main event.’ You will have a much better time if there is a sense of unity among participants, especially if they get to know someone they’d like to experiment with.
Provide the essentials
Make sure that everything needed for safe and fun group sex is made available to your guests. Provide all that is necessary for safe sex, including condoms to help prevent STIs; flavoured condoms are perfect for making oral sex more enjoyable. Body wipes and sex toy sanitizer is also essential to keep things clean. That said, wipeable inflatable furniture, sex toys, and lube should also be at people’s fingertips.
Get clear consent from everyone before beginning
When hosting an orgy, the most critical aspect of planning your get-together is receiving consent from every person in attendance. After everyone is made clear on the theme and what can be expected from all participants, they will be able to give genuine consent. However, if at any point, someone no longer feels comfortable and wishes to withdraw and watch, or leave the sex party altogether, that needs to be accepted and respected.
If you decide to host orgies, be they in your home or at a fun and thrilling alternate location, remember to take all steps necessary to create a safe space for group sex. From the items you make available to participants, all the way to explaining and enforcing orgy etiquette, it’s the host’s responsibility to make it a (positive) event to remember.
Would you be interested in hosting sex parties of your own? Would you ever engage in group sex? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
