How to Date Yourself and Fall in Love With the Ultimate Version of You
I am such a firm believer in dating yourself, whether you’re single, are happily in a healthy, long-term relationship, or are currently getting over a breakup. Taking the initiative to set time as regularly as possible to treat yourself to enjoying your own company is paramount for self-growth as well as to getting comfortable going out alone and being in your own company. After all, if you don’t want to spend time with you, why should anyone else?
To help you get to know yourself better and oblige yourself to realize how awesome of a person you are, I’ve compiled my favourite ways to take yourself on a date and fall in love with the best version of yourself.
Understand the importance of dating yourself
Take yourself out on a date, and you’ll look at yourself in a brand-new light. I promise.
Whether or not self-love and self-care is something you tend to focus on in your life, the act of going on self-dates can be highly beneficial to anyone. Personally, it’s one of my favourite self-love exercises, and I try to do it as much as possible; at first, it felt strange to do, but as I did it more frequently, I came to crave this alone time spent in inward reflection and my own company.
While the idea that you must love yourself in order for someone else to love you sounds cliché, it’s true — and this goes for all relationships. Even when it comes to friendships, ask yourself what you have to offer someone as a friend. What do you look for in a friend, and can you be that person to yourself? If you’re unsure or have answered “no,” making time for dating yourself and getting to know yourself better might be the solution you didn’t know you needed.
Come up with some self-date ideas
Now that you know why you should date yourself, you’ll have to develop some self-date ideas on where to go by yourself. Try to focus on planning something that reflects the things you love doing most, that makes you happiest. If you’re passionate about the arts, consider taking yourself to an art gallery or ballet performance. If you’re into cinematography, maybe attend a film festival or even visit the local movie theatre. For some quiet time to reflect on your thoughts, grabbing a drink from your favourite café can do the trick.
Remember that these unique date ideas can even be at-home, if you’re not able to leave the house and do anything beyond the walls of your home. Cooking your favourite meal or dancing around the living room while listening to an incredible album are two of many great options to choose from.
Determining your love language and then expressing self-love in this way is an ideal first step, helping you choose the direction this self-date can take. If you’re looking for more ideas, I recommend giving The Adventure Challenge Solo Edition a try!
Set time aside to take yourself on a date
You’ve decided on the places to take yourself on a date, but now you have to go out and do it. I know it’s easier said than done, and taking time out of your busy schedule can seem impossible at times; however, consider this a (very fun) obligation you now have. A commitment to yourself, yes, but a responsibility you need to uphold, nonetheless. As I mentioned above, sometimes these might be adventures out and about, while other days, they might be fun at-home date ideas brought to reality.
The beautiful part about dating yourself is that you don’t have to stress about meeting new people on a dating app, don’t have to write a dating profile, and you definitely don’t need to worry about what to talk about on a first date or dating safety. It allows for you to take this time to focus on yourself, diving into getting to know yourself better, and having a good time. By associating a positive outlook with self-dates, you’ll find that you will look at yourself in a more favourable light as time goes on.
Discover the ultimate version of you
I hope it’s clear now how to date yourself and fall in love with the incredible person you are. As you start to turn this into a habit and spend more and more time taking care of yourself, you’ll find that you will have a better relationship with the best version of yourself. Personally, I’ve found that this time spent taking care of myself and going with the flow to do exactly what I want to do has helped me learn more about who I am as a person. By being alone, I am somehow better able to piece together who I am with other people: my friends, family, and partner. Even my colleagues and new acquaintances that I meet.
The more time I spend with myself, the deeper I fall in love with this unique person. I have come to appreciate her more, understand her better, and listen to that inner voice that often was drowned out in the past by the obligations and concerns of everyday life. You know, the things we often prioritize over ourselves with a dismissive, “I’ll get around to myself eventually.”
Dig that person out of the rubble right now and take them on a date. You deserve it.
Take yourself out on a date, and you’ll look at yourself in a brand-new light. I promise.
Whether or not self-love and self-care is something you tend to focus on in your life, the act of going on self-dates can be highly beneficial to anyone. Personally, it’s one of my favourite self-love exercises, and I try to do it as much as possible; at first, it felt strange to do, but as I did it more frequently, I came to crave this alone time spent in inward reflection and my own company.
While the idea that you must love yourself in order for someone else to love you sounds cliché, it’s true — and this goes for all relationships. Even when it comes to friendships, ask yourself what you have to offer someone as a friend. What do you look for in a friend, and can you be that person to yourself? If you’re unsure or have answered “no,” making time for dating yourself and getting to know yourself better might be the solution you didn’t know you needed.
Are you sold now on how essential it is to take yourself on a date, whether a night out or a solo date at home? As you continue to take the initiative to set aside time to embrace your own company, you’ll find that your self-development will continually improve and that you will become keen on going out alone. From personal experience, as you learn to fall more and more in love with yourself and solidify this healthy intimate relationship, this new and improved version of you will shine through and attract more of the right people into your life.
Do you regularly set time aside for dating yourself? What are some of your favourite places to take yourself on a date? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
