A fetish defines the object of one’s sexual fantasies (a living being or an inanimate object), while kinks are the ‘non-conventional’ practices a person takes part in or fantasizes about. When looking at either of these definitions, both are typically considered to diverge from mainstream societal norms.

Thankfully, recent years have seen the world become progressively sex-positive. As a result, many fetishes and kinks are considered more ‘acceptable.’ Still, not every fetish (or fetishes) that a person has is understood by the general population. This is partly due to diverse subcultures that can branch from a single fetish or kink. It can leave outsiders uncertain of what it entails.

Today, we’ve decided to speak about xenophilia (specifically relating to sexual arousal from aliens or zombies) to help remove any misperceptions and uncertainties. We hope that it will give you a better idea of what it’s like to experience this fetish, as well as what someone who takes part in it might be into.

What is xenophilia?

A sexual desire and attraction formed between humans and extraterrestrials such as aliens (or, in some cases, zombies), xenophilia stems from the word describing a love of foreign people and their cultures. This is perhaps rooted in an attraction to the unknown, with characters fantasized about typically deriving from science fiction movies, books, or the like. Because these extraterrestrials are often genderless, there generally are no constraints on someone’s attraction to the creatures’ gender or sexual orientation.

Common misconceptions

Not everyone who experiences xenophilia wants to dress up as an extraterrestrial creature, nor do they necessarily want their partner to roleplay, either! In fact, some people have a sexual attraction to these sci-fi creatures without ever acting on them. As you can imagine, finding an alien or zombie to engage with sexually isn’t an easy feat.

That said, the way that xenophilics fulfill their sexual desires is not a cookie-cutter approach, and what works for one person will not necessarily work for another. Thus, like any fetish or kink, it’s important not to make assumptions.

How to talk about it with your partner

Even when it can seem difficult to talk to your partner about your kinks and fetishes, it’s nonetheless a meaningful way to bring more profound pleasure to your relationship. After explaining the important details of xenophilia, including what you, specifically, are aroused by, you can open the conversation up to answering your significant other’s questions. Be prepared to discuss how your partner can become a part of your sexual fantasies, including how they can incorporate these aspects of sci-fi into your sexual routine.

Things to try

Some of our favourite ways to capitalize on xenophilia are:

Roleplaying as aliens or zombies during sexual play
Using a dildo or pocket pussy shaped after your favourite extraterrestrial creature’s genitals
Watching ethical porn, cartoon or live-action, featuring aliens or zombies
Reading erotica based on xenophilic encounters
Meditative experiences, whereby the hypnotized individual is walked through a sexual encounter with the creature of their fantasies

Are there risks to consider?

As there are limits to one’s ability to contact a genuine extraterrestrial to engage with sexually, there is no inherent risk in having an attraction to or desire of aliens or zombies. However, if you share a sex toy fashioned after an extraterrestrial creature and are sharing it with a partner, be sure to properly clean your toy between uses. You’ll also want to ensure that, when engaging in sexual activities with folx dressed up as aliens or zombies, you are taking active measures to prevent sexually transmitted infections. If pregnancy is a concern for either partner, using the right birth control options is also recommended.

How can I learn more?

The internet is a great place to find the resources you are looking for. Whether it’s chatrooms or threads with other xenophilics, searching for sex toys modelled after your favourite creature’s genitals, or ethical porn based in the sci-fi world, you can find it all. There is also plenty of erotic fiction based on this topic, both as digital and hard copies.

After reading this, we hope that you now have a deeper understanding of what it means to have xenophilia. The next time the topic comes up in conversation, hopefully, you will feel encouraged to speak about it. Whether it’s learning more about the fetish from someone who practices it first-hand or educating someone who may be closed off to the idea, we feel that we have done our job to help make the world a more sexually inclusive place.

Do you find the notion of extraterrestrial xenophilia arousing? If you could have sex with aliens or zombies, would you? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.

Fetish Friday: Xenophilia