Fetish Friday: Sex Dolls and Sex Robots
A fetish defines the object of one’s sexual fantasies (a living being or an inanimate object), while kinks are the ‘non-conventional’ practises a person takes part in or fantasies that they have. When looking at either of these definitions, both are typically considered as diverging from mainstream societal norms.
Thankfully, recent years have seen the world become progressively sex-positive, and as a result, many fetishes and kinks are considered more ‘acceptable.’ Yet, not every fetish (or fetishes) that a person has is understood by the general population. This is partly due to diverse subcultures that can branch from a single fetish or kink. It can leave outsiders uncertain of what it actually entails.
To help remove any misperceptions and uncertainties, today, we’ve decided to delve into sexual play with sex dolls or sex robots. We hope that it will give you a better idea of what it’s like to experience this fetish, as well as what someone who takes part in it is into.
What is a sex doll and sex robot?
Invented by Dutch sailors in the 17th century, sex dolls were initially formed from old pieces of clothing (in fact, in Japan, they’re sometimes still referred to as ‘Dutch wives’ for this very reason). In the modern-day, they typically resemble more of a sex robot, in that they are realistic — often made of silicone — and can sometimes make complex, human-like movements. Many sex dolls have oral and anal openings, with a vaginal opening on ‘biologically’ female dolls and realistic penises on ‘biologically’ male versions.
People who share this kink are called ‘iDollators.’
Common misconceptions
Not every sex doll is of a skinny blonde female with large breasts. In fact, many people prefer more realistic looking dolls and robots, who fit a more common appearance. As well, not all are modelled after women; there are plenty of male sex dolls! After all, this fetish can be enjoyed by absolutely anyone and everyone is attracted to different things.
Sex dolls are not to be confused with ‘dollification,’ where a human partner transforms into a living doll, so to speak, both mentally and physically, typically for objectification.
How to talk about it with your partner
When you decide to talk to your partner about your fetish, you’ll need to discuss how they would be involved, either directly or indirectly (should they consent to it). Answer any questions that they may have and suggest how you could gradually work the incorporation of sex dolls or robots into your sex lives as a couple.
Things to try
Interested in using a sex doll or sex robot, silicone or otherwise? Try delving into one of these activities:
· Visiting a sex doll brothel
· Enjoying a threesome with a doll and a human (or with two dolls)
· Having sex with a doll, either alone or with someone watching
· Exploring your sex doll’s different orifices
· Putting a different wig on your doll, to feel like you are having sex with someone new
Are there risks to consider?
The great news about sex dolls? You don’t need to worry about the risks of STIs or pregnancy. However, if you have a threesome with a doll and a human, you should still be practicing safe sex by using protection and exploring all of your birth control options. When sharing sex dolls with someone else, be sure to empty and sanitize all orifices, as well as its ‘skin.’
How can I learn more?
It probably won’t be a surprise that the internet is likely your best spot to find an abundance of information on sex dolls and sex robots, much of it from people who use them themselves. When found from reputable sources, it’s an ideal starting point to learn what to look for and what to expect when using a doll yourself, including any questions you should be asking manufacturers before purchasing your first companion.
After reading this, we hope that you now have a deeper understanding of what sexual play with a silicone sex doll or sex robot entails. The next time the topic comes up in conversation, you will (hopefully) feel emboldened to speak about it. Whether it’s learning more about the fetish from someone who experiences it first-hand or educating someone who may be closed off to the idea, we feel that we have done our job to help make the world a more sexually inclusive place.
Have you ever had sex with a realistic silicone sex doll or robot before? Is incorporating realistic dolls into your sexual play something that you would consider trying? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
