Having Group Sex? Here’s the Orgy Etiquette You Need to Know
Attending sex parties can seem daunting, especially if you’ve never been to one before. From deciding what to wear to remembering what to bring along with you, there are many important ways that you must convey respect to those around you. ‘Orgy etiquette,’ if you will.
In getting clear on what to expect and learning how to carry yourself throughout the entire experience, you can ensure that it will be a positive event for everyone involved. To help you with this, we’ve compiled a list of things you should do before attending a play party of your own.
Find out the event’s theme
Before picking a play party to attend, make sure that it’s one you actually have an interest in exploring. For example, if participating in BDSM is something you would never consider, going to a party with that as its primary focus wouldn’t make sense. Instead, find something that’s more up your alley.
Get clear on what you’re comfortable with
Before showing up at the event, be clear in your mind how far you are willing to go in terms of group sex. This can have a wide range. Consider if you’d only like to be a voyeur (not participate in anything physical yourself), if you’re comfortable asking others to join in on their fun, if you’d be willing to initiate an interaction with someone, or what sexual acts you are prepared or unwilling to do.
Shower thoroughly beforehand
As with any sexual activity that you decide to take part in — even with a single person — it’s best to wash thoroughly beforehand. This holds true for group sex, where many people could potentially be up close and personal with your body. While you’re at it, make sure body hairs are trimmed, so that finding necessary orifices is made that much easier!
Come prepared
The clothing you wear to a play party depends on the theme. Some don’t allow jeans or casual attire, some require masks, and others don’t have any dress code. Regardless, plan for three outfits: the clothing you’ll arrive in, something sexy underneath, and a cover-up for mingling afterwards.
You may also want to stash condoms in your pocket, in case the organizer hasn’t provided any. If you have a vagina and uterus, consider using an IUD or other form of contraception.
Arrive on time
Though you’re (likely) paying for entrance into the sex parties you attend, it’s no excuse to ignore the designated starting time. Arrive at the indicated hour or, better yet, fifteen minutes early to ensure that no one is delayed due to your lack of punctuality.
Ask consent before every act
It’s no surprise that play parties consist of a myriad of sexual activities. However, you must keep in mind that just because you are comfortable with certain things, does not mean that someone else will be. Before any and every new act, ask the person (or people) that you’re engaged with for explicit consent to move forward. Everyone involved should be clear on what will happen and, if anyone expresses concern or asks to leave, they must be allowed to do so immediately with no questions asked.
Practice safe sex
Whether you’re having sex with one person or with hundreds, practicing safe sex is paramount. In a group sex environment, you never know what STIs someone may have — they may not even know themselves! — nor do you want to risk the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. It doesn’t matter if it’s intercourse, anal sex, oral sex, or anything in between. Use birth control and protective contraception like condoms at all times.
Be clean and courteous
Any sexual activity you engage in is likely going to be messy in some way. When at a play party, you can be considerate to other attendees by cleaning up after yourself. Sanitize sex toys after you use them, wipe down any inflatable furniture you were on, and be careful not to break anything in your vicinity during your sexy exploits.
Never kiss and tell
Sex parties are for everyone, but all participants must honour a sense of respect and anonymity. Never reveal the identity of other attendees. To avoid this risk, you may be asked to sign a non-disclosure agreement (NDA) before entering the premises, to ensure a confidential relationship between all that are present.
Talk to the organizer
If you have any remaining questions about the process of a specific play party or what to expect, reach out to the event’s organizer. When hosting an orgy, the person (or people) in charge will have an in-depth knowledge of what the entire party will entail and, thus, can address any concerns and help put your mind at ease.
Now that you know the basics of how to act and carry yourself during group sex (or any other sexual activity you may choose to endeavour), you’re prepared to go to a play party. In remembering these steps for essential orgy etiquette, you’ll ensure that you have a good time and that those you interact with will have a positive experience.
As with any sexual encounter, consent, safety, and openness are of the utmost importance.
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