Fetish Friday: Golden Showers
‘Fetish’ defines the object of one’s sexual fantasies (a living being or an inanimate object), while the ‘kink’ is used to describe the ‘non-conventional’ practices that a person takes part in or sexually fantasizes about. When considering the connotations of either word, both are typically seen as diverging from mainstream societal norms.
In recent years, however, we have fortunately seen the world become increasingly sex-positive. Consequently, many fetishes and kinks are considered more ‘acceptable’ to discuss. Yet, not every fetish (or fetishes) that a person has is understood by the general population. This is partly due to many subcultures that can branch from a single fetish or kink, leaving outsiders uncertain of what it entails.
To help remove misperceptions and uncertainties on the topic, we’ve decided to discuss the subject of golden showers, including how one can incorporate urophilia and the physical sensations associated with it into erotic play. We hope that it will offer a better idea of what it’s like to experience this kink and what someone who takes part in it is into.
What are golden showers?
Golden showers — also commonly referred to as ‘water sports’ or ‘piss play’ — describes erotic play involving urine. This is associated with urophilia, when someone is aroused by either the sight or thought of themselves or another person urinating. This can be either experiencing the physical sensations (for example, being urinated on), the smell of the urine, or simply watching another person relieve themselves in a sexually-charged situation.
Common misconceptions
The most common misperceptions surrounding golden showers is the assumption that everyone with urophilia experiences the desire to feel the physical sensations of being urinated on (whether on their face, torso, wherever). As we mentioned above, it can go beyond that and never cross into becoming physical.
Others may assume that urophilia can only be enjoyed by folks who have experienced some form of abuse or sexual trauma in their lives. While that could potentially be the case for some, in reality, anyone can take pleasure in the act or thought of golden showers, regardless of their past.
How to talk about it with your partner
When talking to your partner about your kinks and fetishes, it’s essential to be open and honest as much as possible. Be clear about what you would like to experience first-hand, whether it’s the physical sensation of being urinated on, visual stimulation, being verbally told about urination, or any combination of these. Your sexual partner may have questions; do your best to answer them before getting their enthusiastic consent or rejection of joining in on this form of sexual play.
Things to try
For those interested in incorporating golden showers or aspects of urophilia into their sexual routine, you can consider:
Reading urophilic erotica together
Talking about a time when you almost urinated yourself
Describe in detail the intense sensations you feel when you have to urinate
Watching one another urinate, either on the toilet, in the shower, or elsewhere
Have your partner urinate on your body, in a spot where you feel most comfortable relieving yourself or being relieved on
Are there risks to consider?
Overall, participating in the physical aspect of golden showers — that is, urinating on someone or being urinated on — is relatively risk-free. However, if you have a urinary tract infection (UTI), bladder infection, yeast infection, or human papillomavirus (HPV), we recommend that you refrain from physical urophilic encounters.
That said, if golden showers are foreplay before physical, sexual acts, you should be aware of preventing sexually transmitted infections and consider your birth control options (if pregnancy is a concern).
How can I learn more?
For those hoping to learn more about golden showers and urophilia, watching ethical porn featuring aspects of urination is a great starting point, whether you are single or have a sexual partner in mind. This allows you to get an idea of what you can do and what you can expect when trying it out in real life. Speaking with others in online chatrooms about variations of this kink is another excellent starting point, as well as a place to validate your perceptions on the subject.
Now that you have read this, we hope you have a deeper understanding of what golden showers entail, including how one can incorporate urophilia into erotic play. The next time the topic comes up in conversation, we hope you will feel comfortable speaking about it. Whether it’s learning more about the kink from someone who experiences it first-hand or educating someone who may be closed off to the idea, we feel that we have done our job to help make the world a more sexually inclusive place.
Have you ever given or received a golden shower before? Do you have urophilia and are willing to try it out during erotic play? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
